I’m pretty sure he expects me to ask him out or something now considering that I’ve been pretty nice to him and all — I used to just shrug off his hints about his feelings and pretend not to notice. I never used to reject him for fear that our friendship would end.
How do I break it to him gently? I’m not interested. I’m already in love, and he KNOWS it! He’s practically my best friend, he knows everything about me. He’s pretty damn good-looking too, but I don’t see him that way.
Plus... well, I’m pretty sure that my “boyfriend-who-is-not-officially-my-boyfriend-yet” will not respond to this very nicely. He’ll think that I was the one who cheated on him, while he (my friend) was actually the one who took me by surprise.
What now? I’m afraid of losing my best friend, as well as the boy I love. So what will it be? Lose one, or the other? Or save both...but how? :/
And I know how it feels to be rejected. I really do. I like this boy as he were my brother. But that's all. I don’t want to cause him heartbreak — but how to handle this situation?
I've been rejected before. And I don't want him to feel horrid about himself like I did when I was shunned. He's beautiful. In his own way. But I'm not interested in him that way.
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Wait. Aren't you the one who sent a friend to tell a guy you liked him, then denied it, then wanted to email him that you liked him but instead called him an asshole and then proceeded to discuss homework as if nothing happened?
Now my answer. You're gonna have to say no to your friend since you don't like him. And he's gonna be heartbroken, and rightly so. You don't want him and you want the other guy you barely know. He listened to you for years and he gets nothing in return (well, nothing he wants). And the other guy gets to kiss you etc. without as much as moving a finger. So that's what he's thinking.
It's not a question of hurting him or not, it's a question of how much. If you call him your brother, like you just did, he's gonna spend the rest of his life being extremely bitter, thinking women are bitches who never go for the 'nice guys'. So forget about the following words: brother, nice guy, just friends. Unfortunately I don't have any idea about what you should say.
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