I love my Boyfriend so much, and everyone just knows we will get married. The only problem is him being in the military. Military life is something I just don't want to deal with, and I've been trying. I just don't think I can do this. I know it's wrong and selfish to ask him to get kicked out on purpose, and I don't want him ruining his future or facing jail time because of me, but I'm certain that it will put him over the edge if I leave him. He tells me all the time that I'm the reason he can keep going. I don't want to be with a military man. Please don't ask why I'm with him, it's because I love him. Please don't tell me I'm weak or that I don't really love him, not everyone can handle this sort of thing, and I sure as heck have been trying.
How many of you have, or would, break up with you man/woman if he/she was in, or joined the military?
- I have left a good man/woman because of the military1%(2)1%(2)Vote0%(0)
- I would not date a military man/woman19%(38)24%(66)Vote37%(28)
- It all depends on them, I'll at least make an effort34%(66)34%(91)Vote33%(25)
- I would not leave if it was working out very well46%(89)41%(112)Vote30%(23)
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You might want to not get married if you can't deal with long-distance relationships. That's the nature of the military. If he is career then he will probably lose you, so you should ask him about it to get it over with now rather than later. The longer you wait the more painful it is to separate. If he does love you, then he will resign as soon as able and change careers for you. That's called sacrifice.2
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