It's been three months after we broke up, I was in a really abusive relationship, in which he treated me really bad. He always talked about his ex, and after we broke up I just can't stop check his profile and checking his ex also. He readded her again on Facebook and is chasing her. I believe I'm starting to sink in a depression, bc I don't have pleasure in anything, sometimes I want to die and another times I just want to sleep. Please help me what can I do to stop this pain?
Most Helpful Guy
The reason you keep stalking your ex, is cause rejection creates obsession. The reason you are acting out this way, is because you are suffering from low self confidence, from being abused.
forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for other people. When you forgive, it doesn’t mean that you approve of what’s happened. Rather, it means that you’re giving yourself permission to move on with your life.
Forgiveness is a choice. Don’t wait for it to just wash over you all of a sudden. You have to choose it.
Don’t give your power away. The pain of what happened is inevitable, but continuing to suffer is optional. The only person you can control is you. By constantly reliving the pain of what happened, you are giving your power away to the person who wronged you.
Don’t cling to negative feelings. Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear, guilt, grief or frustration. While the pain may never completely disappear, forgiveness can help you release the anger and bring those in your life closer to you.
There is no right timeline for recovery. For some people, making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes time and effort. You may have to make a conscious effort every day to forgive. To say, “I’m letting this go. I’m not going to invest hatred, bitterness, anger, resentment in this person anymore.” You can find closure in forgiveness.
You can’t change the things that happened in your life, but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn’t receive support when you needed it, give it to yourself now.
Listen to your internal dialogue. What are you saying to yourself? Write them down without censoring them. Is what you’re saying fair and true? If not, generate new ways of thinking. Someone may have said horrible things to you long ago, but it’s possible you took over for them when it stopped.
We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.
You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don’t. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others’ behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.
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Most Helpful Girl
Block him from social media, and every time you feel the urge to check do something else. I had this habit when I was younger - anytime I felt my fingers twitching I'd get a drink of water. I drank a lot more water, and eventually stopped thinking about it0