Hello, there is that lady at work, (this one is married). Generally what makes me connected or attracted to women n what i look when I meet them first time - Smtimes it takes a little longer for me to connect., are Their personality, character, how friendly they r. how easily they get along.. Including how they connect with relatives..
I am not mentioning sex here because if the above criteria r satisfied n we get along sex comes auto
Like with that lady above (at work), I felt connected, n felt at ease with her that I showed some caring besides she is already married on paper n now she is preparing for religious wedding. Because she is already married on paper, I can only express my respect, appreciation, caring as she knows it. But since we had a chat on Friday as I asked if I could hv a walk with her during lunch time n walk her to bus stop to have a nice chat as we don't do it. She may b talking n laughing with everyone, but when it comes to me, she will either Skype me rarely talking about work. Even on Skype I can't open a general conversation. This really annoys n makes me very sad.
On Friday she refused me walking her to bus stop because, as she told me, people in our company do gossip a lot. Even once there was that guy who asked me "if me n her having an affair". i was annoyed. She even said, once confirmed, she will move to another department in the company which is based in da city.
One thing I can't understand is, there is a guy who lives in the south, they both go home together. She often comes to talk to him during lunch time n go hv a sit down to take air or hv a walk out.
That's what i want from her. But she prevented me.. Why is that? Other guys can but not me...
The way I describe what i see in women is also with single ones, only 2 women I felt like I am feeling. With my ex girlfriend (who is married by now- that time i didn't earn big money). This lady at work n ex girlfriend, I connected easily.
Feel sad. I hv to hide my face tomorrow at work.
Most Helpful Girl
Please stop inviting me to your questions1
Most Helpful Guy
As you feel connected to her, you may have shown some signs of interest. She might be aware about those signs and she may have thought that you like her more than you should. She is trying to prevent you from spending any time with her, so that, things won't go much ahead. I believe that she is indirectly telling you to 'Go away, I don't want you to like me that way'. You should not pursue this further as it will cause problems for you both. You should try to avoid her as much as you can, I apologize but it is for your own good. She 'hangs out' with other acquaintances as they aren't attracted/feeling connection with her, and she is aware of it, so she considers 'hanging out' with them much more safer than with you. If you are unable to avoid her/feeling unable to avoid her, start behaving like a friend would, but never rush things further as she is 'already' married on paper. I hope my opinion has helped, and no, this is not love, it seems more like infatuation.0
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