i was dating this guy and we've been dating for along time and I really really care about him. so anyways I was at this party and got a little drunk.. my best friend for years was there and he said I was sorta leading him on like I wanted to do stuff so he kissed me and as soon a that happened I backed away.. I felt horrible so I told my boyfriend because I cannot lie to him whatsoever. we were fine for like three weeks then he said he couldn't do it anything and broke up with me. I was so heartbroken and cried for days. after that we didn't talk for about three months then out of the blue he texts me and says he misses me and that we need a talk so we did and decided to take things slow. well we weren't dating and we had sex a lot then randomly he stops talking to me and every time I try he says he doesn't know about us anymore and doesn't wanna deal with it right now? what does this mean guys? are we over or what?
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As long as you are giving the whole story about what happend and what you did involving the kissing, then I think your ex needs to get over it.
You were at a party, where an old friend got drunk, and then he kissed you, then you backed away. That's not cheating. That's someone taking there advance a bit too far, and you stopping it,... and kudos for telling your man.
I can respect your ex's issues though,... being that this best friend is a guy, that you probably still hang out with him, and now, obvisously when you are haning out, you need to stay sober / aware enough to keep things from happening,... that's a little disconcerting.
If you are really wanting to be with this guy, you need to have a serious talk about what happened, what is happening, and how you both feel. You may also need to make a difficult decision about your best friend since advances and outward statements of affection are going to be atom bombs to any relationships that you are in. If you truly have no feelings for this best friend, and he can't respect that and put his aside, perhaps you need to make a split.