my boy friend of 5 months is not talking to me anymore because I refused to have sex with him since he is not my husband.he says its cliche,and he can't keep a relationship without sex.he doesn't call,text or send post cards.every time I call him he answers harshly and uninterestedly
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It is a shame the two of you did not have this conversation when you first started dating but you have had it now. Of course, I realize maybe you did tell him your beliefs early on and he just did not believe you. He is being a real turkey in pressuring you like this. It's good that you did not have sex with him and know his true colors now.
In the end, you both have a right to your beliefs. It's okay for him to want to be in a sexual relationship, and it is okay for you to want to wait for marriage. To be fair, he may be feeling a bit tricked or pressured into being very serious sooner than he is ready. Not many guys in your age range are ready for marriage. Most men really must sort out their career path and be in a good job and ready for that responsibility before they can consider marriage. He may believe you hooked him in to being connected to you and this is another hook you are putting in to him to get married when he is nowhere near ready. It still doesn't excuse his very immature way of dealing with the situation, but it can explain it. Best of luck!1