I got divorced a few months ago, loved him to death and all that. Question is, how should i move on? Do guys generally get over divorce/breakup that easily? I'm already keeping myself busy all the time, yet it's that time of night where every single memory of us clicks back.
Advise on getting over a divorce?
What Guys Said 1
Build goals you enjoy pursuing (not immediate gratification) and pursue them. Fall in love with something (not necessarily someone). When you fall in love with the pursuit of this goal, you can get so excited about pursuing it that he'll end up working his way further and further out of your mind.0
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What Girls Said 2
I'm sorry to hear about the divorce. But at this point, I don't know why divorce, so, therefore, I can't really assess the situation as you didn't explain what happened. Overall I can only say this. And this depends on how what I'm about to say relate to you.
Marriage is not something you do just to get a divorce. If you understand that at least, great. But here is the warning. I don't know what really went on, but you will have to come to terms and grips to check within yourself first, to make sure you was not in the wrong that prompt the divorce in the first place. Whether it be adultery or something complete mundane. There is no: He was completely at fault. Or You was completely at fault. Both parties are responsible for what happens to the marriage/relationship. UNLESS he chose that he no longer desires a marriage with you and just quit. At that point, you can't control that. And I understand your pain. As to your other question. That depends entirely on him and how much he really emotionally invested in that marriage with you. Right now, what you need is professional counseling. Because thinking about it will just make it worse. I will tell you your heart won't just heal with time if you won't allow the process to heal, to begin with. It will take a long time to adjust. But what matters is you adjusting and having an emotional support system as well as much prayer to help you on this difficult path.1
This will happen but one day your marriage will just be another past event in your life you can look back at it as a learning lesson and be thankful for it. Never regret, can be raw still but you both chose this for the better. He was a huge part of your life that is going to change over time because you have to focus on you and becoming a better person than you were yesterday x0
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