I was with someone for 3 years in a long distance relationship. She was going to college on the east coast but in a rural town that is hard and very expensive for me to get to. Having living expenses and helping parents out it was very hard for me to get there and I would only be able to stay there 3 days for about $1ooo. However during the summer or winter, I could pay for her trip here or go visit her in her home in new york for around 400$ for about 2 weeks or even longer. She was ok with that, she even said it was better that way. Eventually it got harder to talk about things. She would constantly compare me to people and it made me feel like crap. I have self confidence issues, was cheated on and used by girls 4 times. When she hung out with the guys she compared me to until 3am, She wouldn't let me know. I got upset because i was worried about her. It bothered me yes that she would be with these guys, but it bothered me more that she would never respond or tell me until 3am. In the beginning of the relationship the roles were reversed, I would go out with my friends drink at their house or treat my family out to dinner. She would call me around 10 times asking me where I was, that she was worried. I thought it was silly but cute. She was in a pretty crappy household being verbally abused by her mother and brother. I decided not to go out anymore and spend most of my time with her so she wouldn't go through that alone. After moving into her dorm everything changed. When I was worried about her and asked her where she was and why she hadn't told me. She got upset at me telling me I was tying her down, I couldn't tell her what to do, that I didn't trust her. That I didn't talk to her enough. I really had nothing to talk to her about after awhile and it was my fault, I gave up my social life. In the end she left calling me a dead end without a future. That I was only with her because I wouldn't be able to find anyone else. I just don't know how to move forward.
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I would say take a revenge and the best revenge is to make her see that you are free and happy without her. When she says that you were with her because no one else would be with you,,,,,, man she is putting you down like a peace of shit. Man what goes away was never meant to be yours, move on, look for new dates find a greater girl that will take you as you are. how could you leave your social life!!! Do you think you were loved!!! All the things she had done to you are the reason why you should get away from her and pass it by1
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