Problem is he has sort of acted like he's stopped caring. Avoids plans, doesn't ask to hang out, totally distant which is weird for him. Two weeks ago he was saying I'm the love of his life/soulmate, etc. We have fought very much so I know why he's distant, he tells me its cause he knows we will fight if we hang out and he just doesn't want any more arguing. (I DO have a reason for arguing with him, he has lots of problems and we have a complicated past, but I should have been less argumentative cause now he's shut off)
He's also been partying a lot lately, which makes me freak out because he was an addict in the past. He's chewing, blacked out with friends the other night, and smoking again when in the past he's cried to me because he's an alcoholic/addict. I've told him I can't be around him if he keeps choosing partying over seeing me but he will keep doing weird stuff like go home eagerly at 2am so he can go chew tobacco with friends.
I don't know what to think? When I express that I care he ONLY registers it as nagging. I just want to enjoy time with him but he seems basically careless, doens't really respect me anymore, and says he is 'never willing to argue never again' and makes me feel like he wants nothing to do with me. But then I get confused, because he will tell me he loves me so much and wants to just not fight.. What can I do?