I've heard many opinions about contact with ex's, being strictly no contact, and that she needs to realize your moving etc.
However I wrote a letter or more so, I just wrote my feelings down. Its been 2 months or so since the break up. The relationship was a year and 1/2. And she broke up me.
Is it worth sending? Why do I still feel like this?
The body of it...
'Time is whistling by, feelings aren’t changing, sure I go out and keep busy but it doesn’t change anything.
Inside has a deep, deep hole which has remained empty , feelings try to fill its void, sadness, hate, anger, grief, but none of which get close to filling it to make me content. Love used to be there and that is the only thing that I feel can ever make it right.
I sit here wondering what you might be doing, just like every other day that passes. I still wake up with the thought of you and I go to sleep wishing you good night and sweet dreams.
The thing that hurts the most is knowing I can’t be open with you, I can’t do simple things like asking how your day went or hearing from you to ask how I am. It feels like an agony that at the loneliest of times can be uncontrollable; it rips though you like a knife and twists with each new thought of it.
I still find myself questioning where I went wrong, and wondering why love isn’t as enduring as I’d hoped it to be. '
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I can relate! I wrote a letter to my ex as well. But I don't think I'll send it. If I see/talk to him in person I will touch on points in my letter.
Knowing I have my raw feelings on this piece of paper makes me feel a little better though. Each time I read it I feel stronger and more grounded.
However I took a different direction with the content of my letter. It was more of a I didn't appreciate that you did this and I don't understand that. But in the end my message was I want closure so help me to understand so I can truly respect why he did what he did and forgive him for the douchey things he pulled.
Try writing a couple letters, some with the intention of sending and some you know you can say ANYTHING in because it's more of a therapeutic letter. If you have tried contacting her and she is not willing to put that effort forward for you then I would consider sending it. But continue to read the letters you write and points in it will either remain important for you to say or you'll find it easy to cut it out of the letter. Then you can write a final draft of a level headed, smart and grounded message to her that cleary communicates your thoughts/feelings.
Since she did the dumping try not to sound like you're chasing her or would do anything for her. It may be true but don't give her this power over you. Plus girls LOVE the chase! I know I do. The more you reach out for her the more she wants to get further away. Girls can be crazy!
Good luck! Hope this helped!0