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This is extremely difficult. I have been in this position before and personally I could not move past the indiscretion. I tried so hard to forgive but I couldn't. I still have regrets to this day that I let him get away. There hasn't been anyone like him in my life since. I really really wish I would have done things differently.
All I can tell you is what I learned: If she is remorseful, it was a gross error in judgement and won't ever happen again then maybe there is hope. If you honestly think you can forgive and forget then you need to stick with it, period. You cannot live in the past and follow her places, check her phone or email, check her credit card statements etc. You will live with stress, constant wonder what she is doing and who she is with, is she really telling the truth, you will feel sick when you get physical etc.
Sometimes,I believe there are people out there who have the strength to truly forgive because of unconditional love. However, there are many like me who cannot get past something that painful and elect to terminate the relationship.
Good luck. I hope this gives you some guidance.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE