My ex (She broke up with me) has recently been in contact with me wondering if I want to meet up, I agreed but couldn't fix a date at that time. She text me the other day saying could we meet up now because she needed someone to talk to. I couldn't meet so she rang me and we chatted about what we'd been up to and things like that. Then she told me;
She couldn't see herself with her new boyfriend for much longer
She really missed me
She still thinks about me a lot
She was happy whilst she was with me
She feels abandoned by her bf
She wanted me to go see her and her family
She wants to find someone in between me and her bf
She was sort of weeping while she was telling me all this and kept saying sorry, does she want to get back together or does she just want a shoulder to cry on?
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"She wants to find someone in between me and her bf"
If you were hurt by this girl, and she tried to move on quickly and is so conflicted about what she wants, and she actually said that to you, I'd say don't let this go any further. She knows she felt comfortable with you at some point so she wants a quick comfort zone to recover. I mean it's possible for people to get back with their ex's, but I believe that the possibility for pain is just not worth it. She left you for a reason. It sucks to hear, but she did. And getting back together doesn't remove that train of thought from her mind magically.
That being said, what are your thoughts and feelings towards her? Has she proven herself to be someone you still could care for and love after the breakup? My ex showed a side of herself to me after she broke up with me 2 months ago that really shocks me to my core. And while I desperately cling to my idea of her while we were together, that girl does not exist anymore. I would not want the girl she is now, even if she said she wanted to come back. If your feelings and desires are different than mine, and you are willing to suffer the pain of it just being a shoulder to cry on and nothing more, then give it a shot. I just can't recommend it myself. Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear, I just wanted to try and get you to see it from a more removed point of view before you make a decision.
Best of luck with what you choose to do sir.2