Her ex is known to be manipulative, which is why I don't feel comfortable with him talking to her. She had told him that she wants him back.. really bad. I know this because my boyfriend told me. He is very honest with me and says I don't have to worry because he loves me. So I do trust him. However, I am still uncomfortable with it because he told me that he has told he told his ex that "he would get back with her if he wasn't with me and if she had changed". I told him numerous times I'm not comfortable with him seeing her. And he says "but she is a fun person to hang with". And still insists on talking/hanging out with her.
I feel like all its going to take is them to hang out and suddenly she'll sway him to date her again, etc.
Should I be worried? For the summer, I am staying with my family in another state, and he wants to fly down to where my family is so he can meet them. So I know he does care about me. (Btw, we've been dating for 5 almost 6 months now) But again.. he refuses to stop seeing her. If she is the only topic of our arguments and he loved me so much, why would it be such a hassle to stop talking to her?
Am I wrong in this? Or do I have a right to worry?
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ok, I think anyone can relate as to why you are a little uneasy here...i do think his honesty is a plus, for sure...i would be a little worried as well...who wouldnt?
now, you have to make him convince you that its you that he wants and not her, its not fair for you to hear "id get back with you if I wasn't with her and you had changed" so what he's saying if you dumped him he'd jump right back to her? that's not being in love with you, that's being selfish.
number one, people share a lot with their boyfriend/girlfriend and become very close for it, maybe they are just really good friends and he doesn't want to lose her friendship...im very good friends with my ex and we get along great(well sometimes lol). number two, he should respect you in a way that you are uncomfortable with him talking to her, which means he needs to watch what he says, how he says it, he needs you to feel comfortable with him talking to her and he needs to prove as long as you guys are for real that he won't have any intentions of getting back with her.
i know its a messy situation, but I think you both have to meet at a median here and try to resolve this issue as quickly and friendlty as possible (dont yell, stay clam, be relaxed) you both should respect each others wishes...
hope this helps0