I don’t know what I should do after the break up. I’ve been reading a lot of questions on being friends with ex’s. The overall opinion I get is varied.
It has been 2 ½ months now since we split from a year ½ relationship. 2 weeks previous to that, she cheated on me but I forgave her. Everything is sinking in more recently and I am starting to get myself into the ‘maybe she wasn’t the ‘one’ for me’ state of mind. Although that is only 'starting'. She said she would like to stay friends, and I agreed with this, reason being I can’t weigh up how you can put so much, care, affection, time, effort and love in to something, to come out with completely nothing at all. It like a bad investment deal or something! We talk every now and then, and it is on both parts. And from what I‘ve been told, she just wants to be single.
However, what she has done has caused much pain.
It does it make sense to me? Where would be best to go?
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Being friends with your ex when you still care about them is like driving a Bently and trading it in for a Kia. It doesn't make sense, same goes for a relationship. How can two people go from being in love to being friends? It doesn't sound realistic to me.
I think the only way two people can be friends after dating is if all emotional attachment is gone. Forgiving is an emotion, it's something not many can do.
Focus on you and getting your life back on track and where you want to be before you consider what is best for the both of you. What is best for you? Think with your head on this one. If she wants to be single then she made her choice. You supporting it only shows that you are okay with it, in my opinion.
Work on how to find happiness on your own. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. You can never go wrong if you put your heart first. This goes for both male and female. She put her heart first and so should you.