He had a few coldsores on his lips throughout the first year of our relationship and I wouldn't kiss him during those times. He would say he didn't know why he was getting them.
- Stay, he didn't cheat. You still have each other
- Stay, not many guys will want you now
- Leave, he cheated
- Leave, guys will still want you
- Kill myself cause my life is now practically over
Most Helpful Guy
That's a tough one. I'd probably be inclined to stay since well... you've been zapped and you're pretty much going to need to find a new partner that has herpes as well. If you like this guy (and it seems you do) you might as well stick with him.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, no offense, but people who cheat are more than likely to lie about cheating when asked directly. So, I definitely wouldn't just believe him on spot. Your friend is right- you would have gotten herpes immediately if he had it when you first started dating. The fact that you got it a year later is more than odd. Talk with your doctor if you want to make sure. Ask them if it's normal to get herpes a year later from when you first got together with your boyfriend. If she says it's mainly unlikely, then he most definitely cheated on you. However, I would break up with the guy on spot if I found out I got herpes from him because he should have warned me and gotten daily check-ups since he was sexually active with me just as I would with him - especially if we didn't use protection.