Is it a good idea to ever take back anyone who's cheated on you? Would appreciate any answer.
Most Helpful Girl
I've had three men cheat on me.
The first had dinner with the girl, I know for sure he put his tongue in her mouth and he ended up on her couch so no idea if he slept with her or not. I forgave him. He continued to cheat three more times behind my back.
Second guy hid everything from me and I only found out when I did some serious digging after things didn't add up. Forgave him. He continued to cheat on me with other women and I only found out after we broke up.
Third dude went to different girl's houses and slept with them, I never knew about it until one of them slipped up and told me.
After my experiences I'd never forgive a cheater no matter how much I cared for them. If they honestly treasured me and the relationship they wouldn't have done it in the first place. Just my two cents
Most Helpful Guy
It's a judgement call, there are no guarantees either way. It's entirely possible that you can get past it, but no guarantees.
What I would want to know, if I were in your shoes, is why she cheated. I'd want to know how it happened and why it happened. I wouldn't accept some bullshit like "It just happened" because nothing just happens when it comes to people. People make decisions, whether they try to deny it or not. She made a decision to cheat, whether it was planned or not. I'd want her to acknowledge that it was a decision and I'd want to know how that decision came about. Unless she is entirely realistic about the whole episode then she will not learn any lessons and she is not truly sorry. If you're making excuses for yourself then you're not sorry enough.