In my case we were together 3 years and it was a semi-mutual breakup. I didn't want us to, but he and I fought so much that it got to both of our breaking points. Now instead of staying close we've only drifted apart. It's hard for me because what I thought was a break is more obviously a breakup now. Even though I'm hurt, I wanna spare myself the tears and loneliness by dating... but I also don't wanna rebound cause I don't wanna do that to the new guy...
so tell me what YOU believe is the right amount of time, from the day of breakup, to wait before really trying to date someone else. Enough time so that it's not a jerk move towards your ex nor too soon to actually care about someone new?
- You can start dating as soon as the day or day after you break up.Vote A
- Around 2-4 weeks.Vote B
- At least a month, but preferably 1-3 months.Vote C
- 6 months to a year to truly heal.Vote D
- 1 year or moreVote E
Most Helpful Guy
I can't tell you. There is no time lmit. You have to get over him first thats that, no is or ands about it. You aren't sparing yourself by mindless dating. You are only prolonging the pain, sadness, and loneliness.1
Most Helpful Girl
I definitely say take 6 months to a year to truly heal. Because whether or not that person thinks their ready, they're really not. If they haven't taken the time to reevaluate why that relationship failed, learned their mistakes and focus on changing destructive patterns and behaviors, they can resurface those habits and memories with other people and end up in either a rebound or round two for heartbreak again of the same situation. Just with a different person. It really depends on that person. But I say to be safe to wait 6+ months. If there is somebody who is interested, you start very slowly and be friends first, ask questions that concern you and don't get emotionally invested so quickly. I don't care how much chemistry you have. DON'T DO IT! No matter how tempted you are. Make sure you have somebody who can support you on your maturity and growth along the way before you start seeking a potential dating partner.1