so i dated this wonderful girl for 3 years i took her everywhere with me overseas really looked after her treated her kind loved her told her i loved her all the normal good things. Then she cheated on me out the blue while working at sea in america to which she confessed to some 6 months later i was upset shocked but thought i could forgive her giving the realtionship time and investment plus if you love a person you work on things right? anyhow long storey short its been terrbile for months she dropped me in feb and I've begged pleaded for 3 months now. She came home from sea in April and we kind of made things up spending a little time with each other and she slept over etc etc. But now she's gone all cold and horrid again for at least 8 days now she lets me text at least 10 times a day but never responds to anything then sends me this last night :
\HOW F;;;;;; DARE YOU!!! You f;;;;;; insensitive prick!!! Get the f;;;; out of my life and stay out of it!!! You are not important to me in what is happening right now FUCK OFF!
i send her nothing but love and the only contact i get get know is via e mails which i dont get a reply from them im so confussed i wake up to a room filled with our things, her pictures over my bed what am i doing? its been 8 days no contact at all and she's 140 miles away at work mon to fri that plenty of space, given i jiust waited for her return from sea for 5 months please what can i do please please please :(
Most Helpful Girl
Firstly, she's the one in the wrong. I know you said you put time and investment into this relationship but looking at how it has become, I think it's all run down the drain..
I wanted to point out that her cheating on you is wrong, you may be however miles away from each other, she still shouldn't have done it. And if she loved you enough, she would have told you straight away, not 6 months later. Just wanna say, this girl ain't worth, and she's got you wrapped around her finger, leading you on. So I would suggest, no more hurting and stress from being in a LDR.. And just break up with her. There will be other people out there, but you just gotta do what's best for YOU. Not her. YOU
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Most Helpful Guy
You can't make someone want you, unfortunately. Bombarding her with contact to which she isn't even replying will only make her angry and it will make her like you less and less. You have to give her space, it's your only option. Clinging on to someone by your fingernails does not guarantee that you won't lose them, it is just as likely to result in your fingernails being torn out. If someone wants to be with you it shouldn't be this hard to keep them.
The amount of pain that you feel is understandable but it is not a bargaining chip. Break ups hurt, it's inevitable. The still happen and they are still allowed to happen. She has the right to choice, as do you. Your pain is yours to deal with and you need to start dealing with it. It will take time, it will take focus, but you can get past it. Don't be looking to her to ease your pain. Once she chooses to not be with you anymore then it's not her responsibility and you can have no expectations of her.