I know that I shouldn't care what he does or is doing, but I see him all over my feeds on social media. We have a lot of mutual friends. Not only this, but some of my friends are friends with the girls he is talking to and it just makes me sick knowing he's making them laugh and wooing them the same way he did with me. I hate hearing about it, but it comes up sometimes. I want to get ANY advice whatsoever on how to just let this go. How to not care. It is not as easy as saying "I'm just gonna let it go". I've tried that, and the anger is still there.
Most Helpful Guy
The way you presented this, tells me you're an extreme Type A person. He was the polar opposite as a Type B. People like that can get along but it's not an easy task for either one.
I also get the thinking you have controlling tendencies too.
1. You can no more determine his path in life than he can yours. Get past that part immediately.
2. Remove him as much as possible from any social media. I know it's impossible, but remove him as much as possible.
3. Your friends are being "woo'd" by him and being taken by his personality. That's him. Your friends like something you don't care for. So what? You can't control their feelings, likes, or dislikes. If they're happy, so be it. No one says you have to hang out with them either! You CAN find other friends you're more comfortable being around.
4. Last of all, find another boyfriend. By getting with a different person, your circle of friends typically change too. Remember the cause of the breakup and YOUR role in that. Try to be very conscious about NOT doing the same mistakes with the new boyfriend.
I understand where you're coming from. I was a lot like you before my divorce. And I carried some of that baggage into my current marriage. It has taken a LOT of effort between my wife and I (can you say nuclear arguments?), to resolve our problems. We're not perfect, but she and I get along pretty dang well now.
Most Helpful Girl
Was in a 3 year relationship with my best friend.. You've answered your own question.. He was trying to please you all the time. It wasn't natural. After 3 years he just can't do it anymore... You just have to accept you weren't compatible. It's true.. You need to just get over it. Get off social media (delete him). and tell your friends that you don't care what he does & don't want to hear it. You'll meet someone your compatible with eventually & won't even give him a 2nd thought x