We were due to marry in 2 months. Honestly, I wasn't happy but I didn't have the courage 2 call it off. We were 2geva only 8 months & it was a long distance rship. Our good times lasted first 3 months. I wanted more time in getting 2 kno him but he was adamant on marrying asap & settling down. I agreed. As time went, I realised he had no respect 4 me, arguments became frequent & he resorted 2 calling me derogatory names each time. Names included "retard", "imbecile." I explained how I felt but he would say "I have to call u names because I can't hit a girl; Name calling isn't personal 2 me; ur over sensitive." Many occasions, he demanded a break. He even used to check out other girls in front of me. He wanted me 2 become more modest with my clothing even tho I don't wear revealing clothes. The last few weeks of our break up became really bad. I put him first in absolutely everything, gave him so much, recreated his CV, made lots of effort 2 c him. He was so ungrateful. During this time I was realising he wasn't ready 4 commitment as his decisions didn't consider me. I wasn't goin 2 get a proper honeymoon bcoz of his messy finances but he was goin abroad 4 a stag. We decided a break for 2 wks & 2 days in I created an Instagram a/c. I went 2 follow him, I saw that he had liked a girl's pic who was wearing next 2 nothing. I felt so hurt. Hypocrite. Next, I made a mistake which I feel so disappointed in myself 4. He'd told me something in confidence & in anger, I exposed this secret to his dad. Since then, he has blocked me on whatsapp & doesn't want anything 2 do with me. I've told him countless times I'm sorry, but he doesn't want me. I've been texting him quite a lot with abuse & he said I was harrassing him & ignored me after. 1 month down the line, I see that he's enjoying life & been on holiday.
But my only question: will he realise what he has lost in me? He'd told me on the day I returned his belongings 2 him that other than the mistake I'd made, I was perfect.
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All women are tempted towards sins like envy, but not all women act on their impulses. In spite of what many observe in the West, I have met many virtuous women: few sexual partners before marriage, respectful, submissive to their husbands, physically fit, feminine, good mothers. Most are in the older generations, especially before the Boomers. Most are involved in traditional religion. There are fewer younger women who are virtuous, and every single one that I have met is involved in traditional religion. They tend to be more rural, from small churches.
Traditional religion can be extremely helpful to finding and vetting women. It provides a community with certain values that you want in a woman, and it provides reliable references for a person’s character. A woman who spent her younger years “out in the world” and came back at 29 be a “born-again-virgin” is a red flag, but a woman in her early 20s who teaches Sunday School and helps with the potluck dinners is far more likely to be wife material. The older women in the church will usually let you know if a woman is a whore.
Traditional religion acts as a curb (but not a cure) for women’s immoral, rebellious, destructive behavior. My wife goes to a women’s bible study group, where she often receives instruction from older religious women. This includes things like telling her to be submissive to me, lose weight and be healthy, not waste money, have cheerful sex on a regular basis, and to learn how to get some control over her emotions:
"Teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands. (Titus 2:3)"
One of my wife’s friends once corrected her attitude toward sex, saying: “you need to view your body as a sheath for your husband’s sword.” She now routinely thanks me after we have sex. I am not a natural alpha, but I have little fear that my wife is going to suddenly cut off sex if I have a minor slip up.
With this great power comes great responsibility. As a patriarch, I am commanded to lead my family, instructing my wife and kids on how to act properly, with genuine love for their well-being. I must be on top of my game, be physically fit, and think rationally when my wife is irrational. I attend a men’s Bible study, where we talk about leading as men.0
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Most Helpful Girl
No, he won't because he has nothing to realise. You (a person) are not your behaviour, so it's nothing special. And yes, you've already asked this question, stop thinking about it and do what he did - move on.2