I have been with a guy for a year, and I do love him. But I'm starting to wonder if I should stay or break up. It will really hurt and I feel like I don't want to, but then on the other hand I feel like I do, it keeps niggling at me in the back of my mind. What do you think I should do?
Reasons to end it:
We live several hours apart with no end in sight to this situation.
I feel like he wants more space than I do.
I don't feel loved or missed when apart.
We don't see each other often. Only once every few weeks... sometimes 1x a month.
We don't have in depth conversations often.
I feel like he isn't that interested in what I'm doing.
We fight all the time over small things and it turns ugly fast.
We don't go out and do things together like dates etc, more just chilling. And it seems like I'm the only one who minds this, as I've brought it up before but he still only really wants to chill and watch tv or walk around the mall.
He doesn't seem to share my love for travel and going places.
He is a bit foolish with money, has lots of things he is paying off, and wants to build his next home with crazy expensive ideas in mind for stuff like big garage for his 3 cars he will buy, but I want to buy something second hand that I could actually afford and look after my financial future... maybe have a family.
Reasons to stay:
I love him.
I can imagine a future with him.
we've been together for over a year and both want a future.
I'm happy most of the time when we are together.
We have fun together.
Share the same sense of humour, similar moral values.
We both don't really drink and both introverted.
The sex is amazing.
We cuddle often when together.
When together I feel loved.
He does try to be a good boyfriend.
Most Helpful Guy
1. Are you putting in more effort into trying make the relationship work?
2. Does he not care about your feelings anymore in general?
3. Did you try your best to make him understand, and gave him a chance to change?
If you said yes then move on. Don't let the sex blind you. I don't know about you, but I respect myself and love myself to much to settle for less or be treated like less. Some of you females are so loyal, you would lose 2 arms and a leg and still try to make it work. Don't take yourself through that pain if your not married, you will find a better man I promise you. You might have to be patient but you'll find better.
Most Helpful Girl
I can't say for anyone, but for me, just having the mere thought of leaving shows that your gut feeling is trying to tell you something and maybe it really is time to leave.
Just my 2 cents.