My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me two months ago and cut me out of his life completely. The end of our relationship was a little rough as we started arguing really frequently and it got too much. We always were bestfriends for years before dating and in love so I didn't expect him to cut me out of his life completely. As soon as he broke up I started begging, the usual stuff as I was heartbroken. He would completely block me and ignore me but then we spoke a few times only because I contacted him first but he has been pretty cold and mean and doesn't care. I started to work on myself and becoming a better person, I changed myself and realised how immature/needy I was when I was with him and I grew a lot. Although he contacted me first one time when I got into a crash and for the first time we had a good civil conversation. But the last time we spoke he gave me an indication after months saying we could be in each other's lives in the future but not anytime soon bc I stress him out and I felt like it's not fair for me to have to suffer and wait when he's living his life so I sent him a text explaining all my feelings and told him it's soon or never and to stop playing games, it was a little mean on my behalf but I really love him and i stood up for myself, I'm just afraid that he'll think I'm the same old argumentive girl and that he did good by leaving me and think bad things about me rather than the good things. I don't know if I should apologise or not. I usually text him every week or two weeks with a similar type of message and he knows that, so I was thinking of not contacting him for a month.. but I don't know if that would make a difference because he doesn't talk to me. Maybe he would hate me more. I really want him back even as a friend for now and I would do anything to make it happen. I just don't know what to do about the whole situation. Any ideas?
Most Helpful Guy
you are a fool. first of all stop begging. love is natural feel it can't be forced. you already spoiled everything by begging. i have been at your place so i know how it feels been ignored and being alone. so i will share you my story.
my girlfriend broked up with me for some reason. i cried told her i will do suicide without her and begged her to be with me as frnd only but just stay. she denied and blocked me from everything. days past i use to call her message her but she didn't cared. i use to cry alone in my room consoling myself. i was preparing for worlds one of the most difficult professional exams that time. due to her i failed in that exam. i called her and cried she didn't even cared. i was broken and i decided to commit suicide. someone just came into my Life and consoled me not to loose to soon with life. she was just a part of my life and her part has been completed and i should move on. it was. very difficult but i tired to console myself and started preparing for exams. this time i cleared my exams and currently i run my own million dollar company only because. my ex begged me last month to get back together 😎 . as soon as she came to know that i have moved on she came all the way begging to me. and now i dont care for her. i have already moved on. so i will suggest stop sending him msgs anymore and tell him through some common frnd you have found some one else and you are happy with your new boyfriend. he will come begging to you. hope it works out. don't beg i request please just try to be happy and one day he will come back 🙂0
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Most Helpful Girl
Speaking from experience I think you should keep a bit of pride to yourself and don't contact him. It's hard and it has become a habit but focus on yourself just as I am also trying to focus on myself and not my ex by myself. I'm going through the same thing but after I tried to fix things the first time and I let go of my pride because I think love matters more and being honest is better but after this.. what your ex has done and said to you. I think yiu should never connect with him again until he does. Honestly let go slowly. Try. I am trying myself and I get so heartbroken when I'm not doing something that keeps me busy but it's nice to have a backbome and your own pride a bit0
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