My ex and I broke up months ago, in that time I have made a lot of postitive changes in my life both physically and mentally. I realised my own mistakes, but I also learned new things and became more mature. I learned that I don't need someone to be happy so instead of begging I began defending myself. So my ex completely cut off contact with me when we broke up and things happened and we spoke and had a conversation which he ended by saying' I'll talk to you some other time' when we had a conversation and I kept thinking about how much he hurt me then a few weeks later I was tired of being played with so I sent him this massive text saying make a decision if you want to be a part of my life/friends and he said ' In the future not anytime soon, you stress me out and cause shit in my life'
I don't understand because what's the difference between soon or in the future? It just prolongs my suffering... so I stopped contacting him and now I want to initate it by saying hey can we talk but I'm afraid he may not answer after our last texts
Most Helpful Guy
yeah, you need to purge him completely. Before deciding if he is still good enough for you. Positive self improvement is never something that feels achieved unless the motivation was for the wrong reasons. Though wrong motivations or not, the fact you are working on yourself, is the key to the self-love that you need to fill the space he's left emotionally and be continually better off as time goes by. So leave him to be him and take your time to be you. And if nothing more happens between you down the track, the relationship would have still been a hugely positive landmark in your life.0
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Most Helpful Girl
hi, if im reading it correctly and you are mis reading it from a state of what your brain wants to see or believe. In the future NOT anytime soon, to me that makes a very clear statement and if i was you my self dignity and pride and belief in the positive changes i had made, i wouldn't show one more ounce of interest. If im brutal you seem to have a self belief on one hand about his hurt towards and moving on yeah great then chasing him desperate for a glimmer of reconciliation. im struggling to understand why because im not convinced you are in need of him or really want him back, so whats the play? xx1