if the person you are interested in now reveals that he/she had been cheated on before, and you have been a cheater, would you tell them about your cheating in the spirit of being honest? or do you think that would drive them away because of their history with cheaters? does your answer change if there is a possibility of them finding out about it (through like mutual friends/rumors, etc?)
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It's a hard question. I'd want to be honest with them, but I also wouldn't want to lose the possbility of us getting to know each other, or if they decided to date me anyway, I woudn't want to start our relationship off with mistrust. I wouldn't want them to worry that I was cheating on them anytime we weren't together or if I went out with friends of the other sex, etc. I wouldn't want to deal with the drama, jealousy, or possible accusations if they're really insecure based on their past experiences and what they know about me.
Just because someone cheated on someone before, doesn't automatically mean they are going to cheat on a future partner. It may have occurred in a different time and context. Maybe it was simply a bad decision that they regret and will never do again.
I believe in trusting someone until they give me a reason not to.