We’ve been dating for five years, but I never really loved him. I think I was just infatuated, as he was my first serious boyfriend. However, any feeling I once had for him was gone soon after our first year together. Not because he was a bad person; I just grew tired of having him around. I don’t even know why I got tired of him – maybe because he’s always so nice and ultra boring. So I started to sleep with other guys. I didn’t want it to be an ongoing thing, but it’s been happening for the last four years. I’ve never had the courage to tell him we should break up. I obviously haven’t told him anything about those other guys I’ve fucked either.
This whole situation wasn’t a problem until two weeks ago, when I found out through a close friend of ours that he’s thinking about proposing. The problem is that, as I have never dumped anyone before, I don’t know how to do it now, and I have to dump him soon. I can’t ask my friends for help either because they’re the kind of people that won’t stop bothering me until I tell them the truth. And if I tell them the truth, they’ll probably shun me for the rest of my life.
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It is always good to be honest and gentle at the same time, but also firm. You need to say that you think you have given the relationship a try and without there being one specific thing, you dont see your future together. Life is short, you are both young and you should not waste time being together with the wrong person. He may not see it this way right now, but inevitably he will catch up and it is best to part now and remain friends.1