Why would a man make want you to depend on him?

A man who doesn't want you to work or he would try to sabatoge the situation? Why?


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  • Seen it before. These are guys who are often insecure and don't want their women working, independent, and empowered. Why? They are afraid they are going to lose you. It's their problem and I would avoid someone with this problem until they come to terms with it, unless you like being kept in a "cage" being a "little housewife". These guys are afraid they won't find another girl and want you to "need" them. That way, you're trapped as a woman. It gives the man power to keep you in his control. These guys are insecure. They need to learn that a girl should stay with you because she wants to, and because you as a man are kind, interesting, attractive, caring, and understanding enough for her to want to stay with you. Just look down the road with a guy who forces you not to work. Everytime a fight or divorce comes up, he can ask "Where are you gonna go? What are you gonna do?". Doesn't necessarily mean this, but ask yourself, why does he have a problem with me working? So he can keep you trapped all for himself and have you as "his girl", "his wife". You do not belong to him, you belong to each other. Love is a contract or agreement between two people. Don't give up your power as a human being. Someone who really cares about you would want to see you do well in life, empowered, and love you for that. Not disable you from doing things so they can have you all to themselves. The 1950s are over. Run if you see a guy like this. Insist you have the right to work, even if you don't want to work. You're a human just like him.

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  • It's a big power grab. He's pretty much trying to trap you so you can't leave. This could be because he's insecure or because he wants to feel power over you or he could have a more conservative upbringing.

    Whatever the reason if he's tried to sabotage the situation that's not a sign of a good relationship. If he wanted you not to work but agreed that you are going to work then that's different but if not then I would say to leave that relationship.

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  • Its nature. Males in any species are hunter gatherers and females are nurturing. We're coded by nature to do the rough stuff like fighting, working, hunting and those things even if some are now anachronisms. Nature gave us the tools to be the worker and the protector. A better question is why most women are determined to break nature and go to work. Adopted paranoia?

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  • some men like control

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  • GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP QUICK

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  • So you would always be with him because you depend on him. He wants to buy you for himself.

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