Long story short. My 5 year relationship just ended a week and a half ago. He dumped me (for the second time) because I am lazy and would never help out with anything (the business, laundry, cleaning, etc) last year he broke up with me kicked me out said 6 months minimum and came back two weeks later but slept with a chick in between. I should have changed when I change the chance yes I know please don't berate me with that. I'm now trying to fix these things because this time he kicked me out said a minimum of a year but says he still in love with me deeply he just can't handle the stress. Come now I find out he is sleeping around already and it really fucking hurts to know that. I made the mistake of asking his best friend if I change will he come back he told me that at first my ex told him the minimum of a year but from how he is acting although hasn't said anything he feels like he just wants to be friends. Accept I don't want to be friends I want to be his girlfriend. I want to change and be a better person because I know that these changes have to happen or else it'll ruin any further relationships. I have to go pick up my stuff today from his house and I don't want to fall apart. You guys I really love and miss him. He told me I'd be perfect if I wasn't so lazy. I'm worried he may not come back around and I'm stuck in a state of panick all the time. Is there anything I can do or any advice you can give that isn't move on because I really really do love him and want to fix things I'm just not sure if or when I can have a chance to. Please please help me! I don't want to feel this way anymore I can't eat or sleep and I'm constantly stressed of wanting to cry.
Most Helpful Guy
If he really loved you, he would not have started sleeping around the minute you walk out of the door. I think he is just using 'laziness' as excuse to break up with you so that he can sleep around. If he feels like having sex with you again, he might come back for a while, sleep with you, and then raise same or another issue to break up with you.
You fell in love with the wrong person. Accept that and try to move on. I know it will be extremely difficult but if you let him play you like this, you will hurt yourself even more.0
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Most Helpful Girl
don't fall apart. oj try to think of it this way that obviously if he still loves you he'll come back to you. dont blane yourself for all of this being lazy isn't a deal breaker but he did break up with you because of this reason. he'll come back obviously, but in the meantime just think about it he does this again and again because he knows how much you love him and he knows that you'll stay around and keep waiting for him he is just taking you for granted. when you go over there make sure you show him that this time isn't the same. this time you are fully ready to move on and dont care. I know this is not how you feel but just pretend ok? because think about it he slept with someone else. its not good. he thinks he can do anything hurt you in any way he wants and you'll still be there waiting for him when he comes back. make hin realise that that's not the case this time. I'm pretty sure it will work in some way. but above all, love yourself. dont let a guy just ruin you like that. love yourself.0
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