Most Helpful Girl
Coming from someone who was recently friends with an ex... if you feel you don't want to be friends then don't. You didn't give enough details so I don't know how similar or different our situations are/ were but during my time, I still had feelings and he cared but not enough to get back with me. I considered him a bestfriend but eventually I got tired of wasting my time and we argued so much it was clear it was time to let it go. I tried but he refused until something forced us to go our separate ways and now things ended on the worst terms.
Most Helpful Guy
No offense but I find it foolish to be friends with someone you were more with unless years have past and you two are as good as strangers.
To agree to be friends after a break up in my perspective is like saying, "There's nothing that I think was special about what we had so I don't mind being friends." Now if you are doing it because "What if we meet again in the future and fall for each other again?" Two things here.
1) "What if" is key phrase. desperate much?
2) Even those people who do get together again later spend years apart not talking to each other. I think average shortest time is a good decade or two.
So keep being friends if you agree to devalue what you had with your ex vice versa. Or be the respectable one, embrace the pain, let it help you mature, and look back at this moment with no regrets whatsoever. I guarantee you, you'll have a different better look at this situation when and if she comes knocking on your door.