We've been going out for about a year and she very suddenly brought up some stuff that I had no idea were issues in our relationship. Most of it stems from a lack of communication, we texted a ton about it yesterday and had a lengthy phone call today. I know that couples have fights and work things out and try to improve things, but the phone call was not very productive at all and just really didn't go well. I feel terrible about ending it after our first big fight, because we didn't even try to fix it, but it came on so suddenly that I can't really see this not happening in the future. And after the phone call, she started sending some emotionally manipulative messages like "do I think the relationship should get more serious?" and "I just need to know you want me!!". All of this after about a day of kind of being torn down and not really feeling loved or appreciated myself, so I wasn't in any sort of position, emotionally, to say I wanted her. But have any of you ever broke up after a single fight? How did it go over?
Most Helpful Girl
Obviously even I would be pissed at you. You never loved her. Coz if you did, you wouldn't have broken up immediately. Weak!!! That's what she thought of you. Weak, coward & a scum. Now she will slowly start to hate you coz you just threw her away like she meant nothing to you.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Listen to the brother and take the emotionally driven statement with a grain of salt.
I don't give sugar coated feel better type of opinion. I call things out as is. It seems here that there's couple things to be considered here.
1) An argument definitely occurrs in any human relationship. But notice that often times arguing back isn't the answer. Really hearing a person out and yielding is important. If neither tried being considerate, Good riddance on both parties.
2) Relationship and marriage isn't about how much you can take from another. It's about how each can serve one another and challenge one another to be better. If people thought of what they can give or offer to another all the time, we wouldn't need to think of what we can get out of it (that is if both had same mindset).
3) I don't care what feminism spout but ultimately There are lots and lots of women who need someone to lean on at the end of the day. It's on your leadership to help steer them away from further complications and love them. There are plenty of destructive situation that becomethe Brest of situations from a kind reaction to an unkind one. So amazing sometimes what unexpected opposite counter reactions can do to a certain stimulation.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE