We've been going out for about a year and she very suddenly brought up some stuff that I had no idea were issues in our relationship. Most of it stems from a lack of communication, we texted a ton about it yesterday and had a lengthy phone call today. I know that couples have fights and work things out and try to improve things, but the phone call was not very productive at all and just really didn't go well. I feel terrible about ending it after our first big fight, because we didn't even try to fix it, but it came on so suddenly that I can't really see this not happening in the future. And after the phone call, she started sending some emotionally manipulative messages like "do I think the relationship should get more serious?" and "I just need to know you want me!!". All of this after about a day of kind of being torn down and not really feeling loved or appreciated myself, so I wasn't in any sort of position, emotionally, to say I wanted her. But have any of you ever broke up after a single fight? How did it go over?
Most Helpful Girl
Sometimes a fight is necessary to either tighten the relationship or to leave it. You could be with a person for years, and then have one single fight that changes everything.
The only thing you can do is ask yourself if you are able to co-exist with that person knowing they have different believes and needs, or you can't.
My ex of four years and I broke up after our second fight, which was exactly the same as our first fight months before that. It was about my insecurities and his lack off showing affection. Even though we thought we solved it in our first fight, it happened again. That's when I realized that we won't ever solve this, that this is who he is and who I am, we were both not willing to change our on own ways for the sake of each other. It was really sad how one little incident can cause a chain reaction of million other incidents. But I believe it was necessary to happen sooner or later.
I think if you feel it in your heart that this might happen again, that you should breakup. I felt it too but I just couldn't accept it. But hey, some couples can actually fix it.0
Most Helpful Guy
Yes I have. A girl I was dating was with a guy for three years. They
decided to get married. He was killed in an auto accident on the way
to her mother's to tell her. I met her a little more than a year later. We did have sex within a month, which is a MUST with me. But I could feel she
wasn't giving her all. I questioned her and she said, "I was putting away
some blankets of ours and it med me sad. I want him ! " I flew off the
chain ! I said, "GODDAMN you weak ass bitch ! Why did you tell me this
when we met? I'm not competing with a ghost ! T is dead and you will
never see him again in this lifetime ! Cry me a river, build a bridge and get the fuck over it !" I threw some money on the table, abruptly left
and figured we were done. Two days later she shows up and we fuck for two straight days. I won this argument, I'm an Aries an we're very good at arguing. And I didn't apologize. Whys should I? I wasn't wrong. I had a girlfriend get murdered in college and it too me time
to get over it. But I was considerate enough not to date anyone during my grieving period. It wouldn't have been fair in my mind.0