We had a very nasty breakup in November 2016, he said never speak to him again. We blocked one another completely but started chatting again in May (he unblocked first). He immediately reverted back to being angry a week later when he saw the new guy I was dating on Snapchat and blocked my number again. I called just to clear the air and he shouted you "You have a boyfriend go be with him, I'm at work. Don't call me you have a boyfriend" he wouldn't even allow me to get one word in before he ended the call. I sent him this text instead:
"My current personal life doesn't take anything from the fact I still care about you and wanted to put things right in terms of the animosity whether we're in each other's lives or not.
A lot of time has passed and although the last few months have been awful between us I had an amazing summer with you regardless of what I've said in anger you really took care of me and I truly appreciate everything you did. You made me so happy at the time and I'd never felt that way before so thank you. Losing essentially my mother straight after just sent me completely over the edge with the drinking and personality change cus I found it hard to cope.
My whole personality and way of doing things were based on her influence and I was just completely heartbroken and in shock so I tried to stupidly act like a bad girl which was completely ridiculous. I've said and done some things I'm ashamed of towards the people I love and care about and I'm just trying to make amends with everybody now I'm feeling stronger and happier.
I've tried an olive branch but at the same point I need to respect your boundaries so I'll leave you be but in the short that's more or less what I wanted to say.
I'm sorry for how it all played out and from my heart, I wish it didn't.
I really hope you're doing well. Xx
The thought of these bad feelings between us hurts me. The guy on snap isn't even my boyfriend we're just dating, does he hate me?
Most Helpful Guy
I think the best thing you can do at this point is give it some time, don't contact him or do anything rash or out of the ordinary (don't block him or anything like that). I'm going to be frank here, sorry if I offend you, I don't think you're a bad person at all, people make mistakes.
I did my best to put myself in his shoes and he probably thinks you're a giant bitch and hates you (no offense, just going off of both your questions you've asked about him). Which believe it or not could actually be a really good thing. People only hate people to that extend when they really care about that person, in order for him to hate you that much it means he probably loves you (don't get our hopes up though). He thinks you're playing games with him and that you're not a trustworthy person. Why? You two met up on Valentines day and it ended in a disaster and you even sold him out on the girl he was dating. I can bet my ass that before he met you for that talk he was imagining how things would turn out between you two and that you two might get back together etc, but it didn't happen. You two met on Valentines day out of all days. You betrayed his trust. Then he got really jealous of the new guy and is probably mad at you for dating someone and opening up to him, he probably thinks what you're doing is wrong since you're being a bit of a hypocrite because when he did the same on Valentine's day you betrayed his trust (obviou what he did on Valentines day was more serious than you unblocking him). He's confused, on one hand he really wants you back and for things to be back the way they were but on the other hand he thinks that you're just going to eventually burn him. It can honestly go 50/50, the love is there but if he has zero trust in you he won't give it a try. Also, he's been clear to you that he doesn't want to speak to you while you have a "bf" (obviously just dating). While the letter was sweet and thoughtful, I don't think you sent out the right message to him. What I got from that letter is that you want the animosity between you two to end, but not necessarily get back together, if you did you would have told him that you'd rather be with him than anyone else. What you said was that yes I'm seeing someone but I appreciated the time we spent together, I don't see anywhere in that letter that you actually want to be with him, in fact I just see it as an apology and I'm moving on with my life.."whether we're in each other's lives or not". If he does contact2
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Most Helpful Girl
It's good that you're at the point where you're asking for forgiveness and it's a sign that you came out stronger from whatever situation you had going on. It's hard to receive a silence after you poured your heart out but regardless of what happens with him, you need to moved on. He may remain silent, he may respond negatively, and that's a sign that he's stuck in the past. If he's not willing to let it go and forgive you, then don't waste your time trying to fix it. You're beyond that.3