Dated a year and a half. Shitty break up. He said he loved me and I do love him. Only been 5 days since break up. But have been curious to know.
Most Helpful Guy
Don't count on it. NEXT!
Why exactly was it a 'shitty' break up? What exactly does that mean to you?
When two people get to the point where they can no longer deal with the other and break it off, it's a sign that they are simply not compatible, that they don't have the coping tools in place, that their own position or opinion is more important.
A lasting relationship puts that relationship above all differences. Arguments are tabled before they escalate - you can come back later and discuss them, in some cases this can take several times, and even simply realize you agree to disagree. You WILL NOT agree on everything, that is impossible.
So after a week I would say you have a break wide enough as to not be repairable. Sometimes a realization is made, sometimes things can be reconciled. But I wouldn't put much weight in that.
What is your backup plan?1
Most Helpful Girl
My ex never reached out to me (I believe most men are too prideful to) but a year later, I called him just to say hey. We dated for a few years. wasn't a bad breakup. He was excited to hear from me. We caught up on life. So now every so often we just check in on each other in a strictly friendly manner. Keep yourself busy, cliche I know, but it works. The less desparate and affected by the breakup appear, the more they want you. Thats just my opinion. If you can't wait a year before you reach out, wait 6 months. there's no rule that says he has to reach out. It has worked with all my exes. I go MIA for months or years. Then one day I call them, or run into them and its like science. They blow up my phone. Not to sound conceided but its because I created my own life after them.0