I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. I've been recently starting to fall in love with him. But he flirts with other girls a lot. Last night he was drunk and I was too (but he was way drunker than me). We had a convo where he was saying he's gonna be graduating soon (his last year in college) and he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship all that time. It was like a civil argument, neither of us were really angry but of course I was disappointed. Later, I went to his bed because I was tired. He went up there to go up on the balcony with all our friends. On his way up, he yanked me off the bed. Mind you, it takes some force to yank someone off a bed to the ground... and I hit my head on the nightstand pretty hard. I told him my head hurt and he didn't seem concerned so I left. Later, my friend told me he was hitting on her and that he was exhibiting some unusually angry behavior (he's never really an angry dude). I'm wondering if it was the alcohol because that can make you underestimate the amount of force you put on someone and I'll admit when I'm drunk I do stupid things too sometimes. Is this a major warning sign of an abuser or just a dude that made a heavily drunken mistake? He's never ever been threatening to me at all and is usually sweet and I never see him get angry... should I try to talk it out or just take it as a warning sign and leave?
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I'd say it's definitely a warning sign. Get out while you still can.0
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Would you like to chance that happening again. I believe person is still cognizant of that type of action when drunk. It sounds like he has either hidden his true feelings and attitude and the alcohol took away his resolve, which is terrifying, and I believe will only get more severe. Or he was on something more intense than alcohol. again, I wouldn't chance it.