so i was hooking up with this girl for a while, and she gave me dustmites so i decided we were done. ever since, she's been trying to find sneaky ways to get back into my life: talking to my friends and trying to involve herself that way, like passing messages; calling and texting, etc. people keep telling me the answer is to just tell her to back off, but that kind of defeats the purpose of going no contact with somebody. it's as if everybody is trying to cajole me into breaking no contact with somebody who majorly fucked me over. could the benefits of doing this be so obvious and I'm somehow overlooking it?