My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me recently saying he doesn't know what he wants and is depressed and has been drinking a lot. A few months now, I started to suspect this girl he became friends with, and tried really hard to not think like that because she's really nice and I like her. I wasn't even worried until she brought up one night that she was scared I didn't like her because they hang out a lot. They Facebook message everyday and they always made me feel crazy because he said she really likes me. When I hang out with her I do feel it's genuine. I know it's wrong but I looked at his phone the other night. They send each other pictures (not sexual) but go on how they think they are good looking and whatnot. He said a few sexual jokes and I know we broke up, but we are living together still because he doesn't know when he's moving back home yet, and he says it might just be a short break between us. He doesn't know. I'm waiting for him to leave because I get the house and cats. But what do I do now? It drives me crazy to know his time of working on himself and "changing" has been drinking, light drugs, and flirting with her. I'm in a lot of emotional pain right now. Nd he denies it all even though I know better. I never would have checked his phone if I hadn't suspected. I can't really let him know what I know without saying I looked. HE thinks it's people people just talking.
I guess I've learned that when something in another disturbs you it's a mirror of yourself. You have to heal that part of you or it will keep happening with different people. I know I need to let go. My focus is myself and making my house a positive place. But the real question: how do you rise above people who claim to love and care about you, but know they are hurting you and they do it anyway. When you have to be around them, how do you rise up without looking like you accept the behavior?