You like this girl a lot, you ve been dating he for a couple of times, if things went well, you might want her as girlfriend or even future wife. However, one day she confessed to you that she had a marriage before, but she has divorced already. Will you still consider a long term relationship with her? How much does her divorce affect your decision?
- It affect my decision a lotVote A
- It doesn't affect my decisionVote B
Most Helpful Guy
It'd be a red flag for me. To be honest and this is also answering based off of your updates. I'd date her but be extremely cautious about it. If a girl marries a guy and falls out of love with him it shows me that she doesn't know what she wants and that marriage to her isn't for life. On top of this is she got married too young, I get people make mistakes and would try to understand (which I would either way).
If she was divorced a few times then it'd be a manor red flag and I would probably not want to continue dating (if the reason for divorce was that she fell out of love). What saying she fell out of love with a guy she actually married tells me is that she doesn't know how to keep a healthy relationship growing and grow with her partner. Yeah I get some guys may cause the problem but if this was a recurring thing I'd just be cautious about it.
Also since patterns tend to repeat themself a lot, if she fell out of love with one guy then chances are the same could happen with me. I know couples grow apart and stuff but I'd want to know if she tried to work things out. Relationships aren't puppies and rainbows all the time and their also not super exciting too.
Imay just be saying this due to bias because I did have an ex and things did seem to be going really well (long term relationship). One day she was saying how she loved me and was all over me and the next she dumped me and started dating another guy within a week. She said she just well out of love (all of a sudden) and brought up a lot of stuff about the relationship she didn't like or wanted to change but never brought anything up or said anything about them. I've also witnessed a few friends go through the exact same thing.
So I'd give her a chance but overall, it is a red flag and I would be very very cautious with her.1