After breaking up, does it hurt the dumper when they breakup a relationship of a few years wtf is wrong with them?
What Guys Said 13
Depends on why they dumped them, if she cheated on me which hasn't happened but if she did I'd feel hurt for example. When I dumped my last girlfriend for a variety of reasons I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders and am proud of myself for standing up for myself and doing the right thing. by the way, the fact that you're literally taking a sample size of one to represent the billions of guys in the world is likely one of the reasons he is glad he dumped you1
If he believed the lies told by his friends, it's either:
A) He trusts his friend 10x more than you.
B) Those lies must be so brutal that he doesn't want to associate with you again.
C) There might be more to it than you know.
He isn't really heartless, if he hasn't moved to another girl yet and if he did that might be the reason to break up from the beginning, typically a guy takes longer time to get over a break up if he really loved his partner and invested in them.0
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It's not a guy thing, it's because they felt the relationship was too strained, or was impacted too much to continue. It's not about being heartless, it's about recognizing (in their mind) that something needs to end.0
I would like to k ow your response on the same case.
Except the dumper was a female. And the friend was not like her sister but had a crush on her. Infact, now they are a couple. and she did really love.0
I don't think it hurts the dumper they do it and don't blink a eye.
It hurts us the one being dumped but that happens we got to
just move on with life.0
If he believe the lies told by his friend, he might think that you are a bad person. So maybe because of that he doesn't have remorse.0
Hard to say, depends on each guy and their personal reasons for dumping their previous loved one. If he was genuinely head over heels for you though, I'd say it'd certainly have hurt him too, at least a little bit.
Seeming it's a small and unfair reason for him to dump you, and you still seem to love him, why don't you confront him, person to person about it? It might be awkward, but if you convince him that his friend is lying (give him rebuttals against the other guy's lies and the find out about the other guy's intentions to convince your ex) and that you still love him, perhaps things can go back to normal, or at least you can put the past to rest if things still don't work out0
As an example, if a friend told you he was cheating and he claimed otherwise who would you believe. You'd say: I trust him, buuuut... let me check out his phone. He doesn't know whether his friends are lying or you are lying. It's hard to know, especially if you've lied to him before or "tested" him.
Another possibility is that he broke up with you for other reasons and is just using his friends as an excuse so he doesn't confront you. I don't know enough about the situation to say with certainty though. People grow apart, shit happens, etc.
It's hard, but you've got to deal with it yourself. Take a good objective look at yourself (writing it down might help) and see if you can improve. If he broke it up now, he would break it up in the future as well. It's better than him staying with you and being miserable, because you'd be miserable then too.
About guys being heartless, please don't say stupid things0
he wasn't happy anymore... things happen and Noone ever tells the whole story why blah blah happened. just gotta move on and stop blaming him0
No it doesn't hurt them, they've already moved on!0
What Girls Said 1
no it doesn't hurt0
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