Back when we got together, I settled for her, in spite of the fact that she's only just borderline attractive in my eyes, 6/10 at best, and completely lacking in sex appeal, because I was desperate and lacked self esteem, and felt that she was the best I could get with what I had to offer. But since then, I've gotten jacked up, I've gotten a promotion, I've gotten a new car and managed to purchase a house instead of renting a small apartment like I was doing back then. And now, there are dozens of women, at work and everywhere else I go, who've manifested interest in me, all of whom are miles hotter, sexier, nicer, kinder, cuter and more gentle than my girlfriend ever was- my girlfriend, who still makes out that I "should be eternally grateful" that she decided to be with me, who's been pressuring me to marry her ever since I got my promotion, and keeps telling me that "I'm the only girl who'll ever care about you, no-one else except me could ever love you". I deserve more, and I deserve better. How do I tell her?
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Well, when you were just describing her looks, I was going to advise you to stay with her because she stayed with you when you had less and you may have less again one day.
But when you started recounting what she says to you, it turned my head around. Where does she get off predicting that no other woman could ever love you and what is she basing this on? If she were saying that to me, I would not have waited for a new job or living quarters to leave.
As for how to say it, Paul Simon claims there are 50 ways. Explain your reasoning and move on. But make sure she understands it is her arrogant and self-serving behavior that made up your mind, not looks.