Long story short, ex girlfriend left me for someone else. I went NC right away, she texts me a month and and a half later bascially asking how i am and bringing up happy memories. I kept it short, stayed upbeat and positive, acted if i was completly unaffected by the breakup. I kept it very brief and ended the convo on my own terms saying i had to go. She seemed upset. Where do i go from here? Do i let her contact me again? Do i text her? I don't want to come off as desperate or needy and especially since i think she's still dating this dude, i don't want to ruin my chances.
Most Helpful Girl
I would be careful with that. It may seem like she wants to talk to you again, but trust your instincts even if you still love her. Your instincts are there for a reason. If you feel like she's with that guy still, you're probably right. Not trying to be a downer, but just trying to help.1
Most Helpful Guy
You're a doormat for her. She probably got scorned by that new guy and so she's trying to get you to chase after her to make her feel desirable again.
You're not a human but just a tool for her to use and then throw away once she got what she wants. If you have respect for yourself tell her your busy next time she tries to chat. Don't encourage anything she tries to text or tries to meet up say you don't have time for it.1