Ok so this is a weird one but I can literally lose feelings for someone in a week.
Its like I will wake up and be like "I don't want this anymore".
I thought I was so happy in my current relationship but lately I have realised how controlling and jealous he is. I have been banned from seeing certain friends and all the things I love are ridiculed.
He refuses to come and visit my house because he hates my flatmate and we have to have sex in hotels as he hasn't told his parents about us yet.
i swear I have been such a fool for him but every day he promises the moon and stars to me and I guess after a terrible prior relationship he seemed like my knight in shining armour.
I always seem to pick the people with massive issues. I'm a good person and all I ask for in a relationship is Loyalty, Trust and Love. I don't care about money.
I have woke up this morning and I cannot feel anything.
But that's when I know it's over.
Just thought I'd leave a bit of background before I came across as some heartless bitch.
Just really would like to know if anyone can go from "I love this person" to "ugh you suck" over night. It's like I have an off switch.
Id really like to hear from anyone who has experienced the same instant loss of feelings and what the reasons for it was.
Thank you in advance to all who respond.
Most Helpful Guy
Its definitely possible. If you feel that your not satisfied, itll start to creep up. It won't hit you til you hard til you understand the reasoning. I had this experience before when my ex just takes too much energy to be around. Id avoid her at all cost but i still loved her. I started being distant. Then i see that i just stoped liking her.2
Most Helpful Girl
Not particularly for a boyfriend, but yes for crushes and guys I dated shortly.
It happened two times this year. First it was guy who seemed like a perfect boyfriend material. We dated for couple of months and in all honesty, he did more for me then my ex did during our whole four year old relationship. This guy was there for me when I lost my job, he moved earth and heaven to find me another job. He was always checking up on me and always made sure I'm not sitting at home depressed. He would take me to fun places and shower me with attention and compliments. He even offered to pay for my rent (because I lost my job). I was so amazed by him and gradually I really fell in love with him. Then my birthday came and I invited him to come for a cake. He wished me a happy birthday and said he'll come by later. Not only did he not come later, he didn't even contact me to tell me he's not gonna make it. I ended up really sad for my birthday and just like that... I lost interest in him. He called me couple of days later to apologize but I just didn't feel anything for him anymore. He wasn't even bothered by it. I ended things with him without a second thought and never thought about him again.
The second time with another guy was this weekend actually. I started recently seeing a guy that I really, really liked, I even fell in love with him on the first date, it's crazy. I was head over heels for him. He treated me amazing for a week and then when we made plans to watch a movie at my place this weekend, he didn't contact me at all. I finally texted him yesterday and he said that these days he's just not in a really crappy mood. That he didn't got out of his house the whole weekend that he just played video games, that he doesn't have a will to live how bad his mood is. And there we go... interest gone, in a second, poof! He apologized and promised me we'll see a movie soon and I was like yeah sure no problem, but it's not gonna happen, I don't like him anymore, fuck it.
I wish I wasn't that strict when it comes to guys and their flakiness, I wish I didn't care and just used them to have fun when they're up to, but I can't. One mistake and I'm gone.1