My boyfriend and I got into a fight two days ago. It started with him re-telling me a story being at a party. He was comparing me to some drunken girl and how insufferable she was just like when I am drunk, and that the last time I drank I kept falling over, being loud, etc (I was only drunk twice in a span of two years)
At first it was funny and I was trying not to take it to heart, but I told him it's not true about me when I'm drunk. However, then he was getting increasingly annoyed that I was not agreeing with him. He called two of his friends during our argument to see if he was right. The first couldn't remember and the second disagreed with him and said I was chill and level headed and adorable.
Depsite that, my partner told me he refused to continue the story unless I agreed with him. He would talk over me as would I. It ended up ending with me and him yelling at each other. He had asked me a question and I was getting around to answer it. He asked me to repeat his question and then answer it. As I was saying, "your question was" he was already cutting me off and telling me it wasn't the question before I could even get to it.
I got in his face because I was increasingly frustrated and he was purposely cutting me off. He put his hands on me, and told me to get the f out his house and that I should of never went in his face. Even his aunt walked in to asked what was going on and he told her nothing and that I was leaving. He kicked me out and told me to not f'ing talk to him. It's been two days and he hasn't said anything. Did I do anything wrong? What the heck am I supposed to do, i feel anxiety. I'm not excusing what I did but I can't put the guilt and blame all on me.
Most Helpful Guy
To be honest he shouldn't be comparing you to other girls, that's bound to get any woman's back up , most people are out of control when drink is involved trust me I have the t-shirt lol but it's no reason to break up if you haven't changed from the first day you met then he should take you for how you are , it must of been a bad experience for him to tell you or he's just trying to control you , everyone has their own mind and free to ask whatever they want , you shouldn't of got up in his face as that could of ended a differant way but he's obviously annoyed that you did , just imagine if the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel?0
- Show AllShow Less
Most Helpful Girl
What was his need to put you down for? If you were drunk you usually do things you don't remember and wouldn't normally do so why make a point of it and make you feel bad? Especially as your saying it's not something you do weekly that is of a concern.
Even then if that's what you choose to do and your not endangering yourself or anyone and just being silly having fun why's he being the fun police and making you feel guilty for having fun.
This shouldn't have even been a conversation let alone where it ended up.
Do not give in and let him make you feel bad by his ignoring you so you give in and run / crawl back. Stand your ground you did nothing wrong you were being made fun of and that's not ok.
Honestly after what he did can you even see yourself being with someone like that?0
- Show AllShow Less