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Nope. I don't care whether we have children by making them ourselves or whether we adopt or foster or use a surrogate or a donor or whatever. How we get children doesn't particularly matter to me, I just care about us having a family to raise together. I wouldn't be too fussed if my partner couldn't have kids, though I think it'd upset him a lot.
you were just shaming me for wanting my own child and now I run into this and you are doing the same to others LOL. I want my own children to pass my genes down. why do I feel important or special? because to me, I am and everyone should think the same about themselves. It doesn't warrant criticism to want your own kid.
Here's a scenario for you: you have a kid, raise them, then 25 years later you find out your kid was swapped for another at the hospital. Which one is more your kid - the one you spent 25 years with, or the one with your genes?
thats a very specific scenario! this is coming from someone who had a step father and a father by the way. I owe my biological son an explanation as to where I went and I would build a relationship with him. I will still love my others son with no problem. My father is my biological father, my brother is my half brother and isn't really related to my dad but my dad considers him to be a son. I have no problem with this situation, but at the same time I am having more than one kid.
In the scenario I described, you would only have biology shared with your biological kid. Is that what actually matters?
im sorry, but do you understand the feelings associated to not knowing your real father like my brother did? people want answers. I owe my biological son an explanation so he doesn't walk around thinking I just up and left him with whoever. If he wants me to be apart of his life then I would be more than happy. This does not effect my relationship with my others son but thats not an excuse. also there is a big problem with what you are implying in your scenario. you say its nothing more than ''biology'' keeping us together in this situation yet there is a huge flaw. There is more than that, I anticipated my sons birth for 9 months, shared names with the hypothetical mother of the situation, made references to him and had a future planned for him. If I find out that this kid somehow was switched off at birth I would be devastated knowing that he is out there somewhere and has been separated from me.
my grandmother recently met her father over genetic testing. This whole time she thought he was a deadbeat and was angry at men due to what happened with her father. When she took the DNA tracing her father had gotten notified that his lost daughter had popped up and he immediately called her and expressed how emotional he was. He wanted to let her know that he did not abandon her because he didn't love her but because they got separated at a time where people were migrating from the north to the south. He ended up in a whole other state never to see her again. He then put her on the phone with her biological sister. They talked about their lives and gave closure and got answers. Have you ever felt something anything close to this?
Have you? Because if you think that family is only biology, you must be pretty lucky.
if thats all you got from my reply than I feel bad for you. goodbye
Well I don't think I want kids so I would be fine with that.Hypothetically, if having kids was important to me then I am pretty sure I would want them to be biologically mine.
Eh, something about raising someone else's kids just bothers me.I guess part of it is that I am sacrificing my opportunity to continue my genetic leaniage in favor of dedicating my life to promoting someone else's genetic leaniage to thrive.Also it's also just more comforting to know my child has that biological connection to me and my partner and that we created our child together.
I have had women leave me when they found out I had a vasectomy. I had my one child. Was paying out the ass in child support and didn't want any more. I was a total slut in my 20s and it prevented many an unwanted pregnancy. My current wife and I adopted her sister's daughter 14 years later. It should not be an issue. There are so many children who are unwanted. Why not adopt?
Do you hate yourself then, for being a slut in your youth?
Not hate but if I could go back in time I would never have slept with a woman that I wasn't in a relationship with. Would like to be able to offer to my wife what she offered to me.
Actually I kind of do.
At least you're not a hypocrite.
I did change and adopted the 3 month rule. That was enough time to decide if she was a keeper or not before I slept with her.
Old dogs, new tricks etc etc
Children are not the most important thing to me, the most important thing is the love we share and as long as we are together and we are having fun in and out of the bedroom then that is the most important part of a relationship
Nah, I would not leave a woman because of that. Hey, there is always adoption.
There is a lot of person these days that don't want kids (me included, but I have a boyfriend already) you just have to find one...
fuck no! that just means worry free cream pies for me
It'd be hard for me.But I want children, we might try a surrogacy. But if all else fails, my dreams come first.
Why? Why are your dreams the most important thing in the world?
So I should give up on having biological kids? Gee, that's pretty harsh.
I'm just asking you to justify it.
Because I want biological kids that are mine, as I said we could try for a surrogacy, i'm still trying. My dreams are the most important because they are my dreams. It should be the same for anyone else.
Why is it so important to have biological children?
Because it's my genes passed on, just like my parents did, grand parents did, great-grandparents did.I'd like to die knowing that I fulfilled my job rather than dying with no kids in the world.
What makes your genes so special? Why is it so imperative that they be passed on? Should we be studying your family for disease immunity of some kind?
What makes my genes so special? They're mine. Why is it so imperative they be passed on? Well, they're mine. Should we be studying my family for disease immunity of some kind? Why is that important?
Alright, then what makes you so special?
Because i'm me. What makes someone else's spawn so special? Why are you adamant that I raise someone else's child?
I'm not, I just don't understand why it's important.
Think about it.You live on and on. Then you die, having no children. You just failed what all your ancestors did to get to you. If your ancestors thought "i'll raise someone else's kid, it's okay it doesn't matter" You would never have happened.
Tbqh, that's not what my definition of success is.
I would like to have biological kids but at the same time I love my boyfriend, so no I wouldn't.
Of course not. We can always adopt a less fortunate little soul.
I think most people lie xD Or they're still too young. You never know but most guys (now normal adults) I know want or already have a baby.
Jesus Christ. At your age? Babies having babies.
What. I want a baby but once I'm like over 25. I want career first and find a real nice guy.
Adoption is always an option, and this means no unwanted pregnancy. It doesn't bother me
No. 8 billion humans is enough. i only want a kid as an heir but i dont really care much About having one
Are you Bruce Wayne?
... Shit he found me out...
I'm fine with it.I don't want little monsters. thanks!
Never having kids, I'd be elateed
My dear. The description. Read it. Live it. Love it.
yes I would. Kids are important to me
Fine with me, not planning to have kids.
I don't want kids so it would be a bonus
Yes, I'm perfectly aware. Notice poll options C and D.
If one wants kids and the other doesn't then you want different things and aren't compatible anyway
Notice the question description.
My answer is no I wouldn't under any circumstances
of course not
We don't want little tykes in the first place.
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