I lent him money, he said he'd pay it back. For whatever reason he's not. I don't care about his reasons I just want it back.
But, I really don't want to call him, message him or email him, I just don't want to be in touch with him. He will just think I am contacting him and using the money as an excuse to try get back together and I'm 1000000% not.
I've left it for the last 4 months because of that reason and was resigned to the fact of not getting it back but I fucking want my money, its mine, it's not chump change, and it's making me angry.
How and what can I do?
I don't want to hire a debt collector as they will charge me about 500/1000 to get it back.
What would you do? Do you have suggestions options ideas?
Please help? I am so desperate to get it back.
Most Helpful Guy
Unless you have a contract, promissory note etc that is written out or typed out him saying he will pay you back them money that is written out, typed out or recorded then you do not have proof. It would be a he said she said situation. If you took him to court youbwould have to prove he said he would pay you back and the judge would have to believe what you say over what he says and have the verdict be in your favor for him to give the money back. If not then he wins the case or the case is dismissed and in either case he would not have to legally give any of the money back to you. It seems like you want to be way too nice to him even though he was mentally abusive to you for your four year relationship you had with him. You do not want to get friends and or family involved, do not want to take him to court, do not want to beg for the money bback, do not want to contact him etc but still want him to hand you all the money back at once on a silver platter knowing he was mentally abusive to you during the relationship you had with him meaning he never cared about you.0
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Most Helpful Girl
How much did you lend him?
Honestly I'm not totally sure what your options are, you may want to speak to a lawyer or someone who understands the laws around these types of situations. But contacting him in a firm manner is also an option. You could even threaten to sue him over it if he doesn't pay up- it might scare him into cooperating. If you contact him in a calm, professional manner, and you only talk about the money (nothing else), then I don't see how he can misconstrue your reasons for getting in touch. He must be aware that he owes you money, so he can't be too surprised if you want it back...0
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