My ex and I broke up in December 2016. It was a mutual thing- so there was no screaming or shouting. In February 2017 I found out he was already dating someone else and I completely freaked out on him. I did no contact for a while and extended and olive branch recently. We have been talking more just catching up. In the the past few weeks he has been asking me if I have been with anyone else besides him, I answered vaguely, he mentioned that everywhere he goes there's a memory of us and I agreed with him and quite recently he told me he isn't emotionally over our relationship and its difficult to move on; initially I was speechless, but managed to tell him to rather leave his current relationship and take time for himself, but obviously he is going to do the opposite. Both times he said "nothing meant by it". I care for him and I really want to help, but its not my place to.
I guess I just need some clarity on what's happening in his head.
Most Helpful Guy
you broke up for a reason
you flipped when he moved on. made him realize that he's still got your mind
extended an olive branch, made yourself look needy
he wanted to make sure that you weren't influenced by anyone and if he still had you on backup.
he played you by getting emotional about how he remembers the two of you everywhere. made sure that you felt sympathy for him
said its difficult to move on, trying to show that you still were the one that he actually liked.
you asked him to leave his relationship to take time for himself, which for him meant that you wee willing to if he ended is current one.
you care for him. because to un are a nice person
you fell for his trick because you are really/genuinely a nice person and innocent enough to not see thins coming.
I hope I was able to help1
Most Helpful Girl
I feel like you broke up for a reason, when a relationship has a crack in it, it takes awhile yo heal. Take things slow, maybe both you guys just need to be friends for starters and work from there?0