Hey guys, I really need some advice on this one. I started hanging out with this guy I knew for almost a year but we only got closer in the end of last year and ended up dating for 4 months and never made the relationship truly oficial. He broke up with me saying "it's not you, it's me"/"still want to stay friends", saying that he couldn't be physical with anyone by that time and he was going through some family issues.
Since then (it's almost been 4 months) we talked little from time to time and even go out as friends once, but since I still had feelings for him this situation really hurt me and I decided to back off for the past month. We even had a drunk conversation when I told him I still liked him and asked him to tell me to give up and he did tell me that "nothing was ever going to happen between us again". I thought I'll never hear from him again but on the past few weeks he left some public comments on my social media and even started a private conversation but then stopped answering and this made me think a lot of him again...
I know deep down I still have some feelings from him, and I tend to make impulsive decisions, but I really want to keep him in my life and I still feel the need to hang out with him. So I've been thinking of asking him out to a concert next week but I'm afraid he'll just say no and I'll make a fool of myself. What do you think?
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I think you shold tell him you miss his friendship and would love to hang out sometime. Keep it cool and with no pressure. He will probably say "yes" to beeing friends. And if there is a spark then there is a spark and maybe something will happen.
If you ask him on a real date then there is too much pressure. He will think twice becase you two have history. He will think "Will it mean you are back together? Will I hurt her? What if I don't feel like kissing her and desapoint her" and might not even give it a try.
Of course maybe he is really not into you romantically. And even if you two go out he will only be friendly. But your best shot is to not put expectation on it. And if you see things are going in the friendship direction and that can't handle seeing him as friends you can stop seeing again.1
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