How do I stop wanting to be friends with my ex? And how to stop loving someone who doesn't love you back? We've only dated for 3 and a half months. It was my first relationship. It's been 4 months now since the breakup and she's still consistently on my mind. Before, we were best friends and now we've both entered the no contact rule. After the breakup I sent her some letters saying how much I would want to be friends when I'm ready. I'm still madly in love with her and I don't know why. At this point I just want to get her out of my mind and move on. I want at least one day where I don't think about her because then I'll know I'm over her.