I've got out of a 9 month on/off relationship. This girl broke my heart twice. First time shame on her BUT the second time shame on me for being stupid enough to date her again. We chalked up the first breakup as "mis-communication" but the reality is she lost interest in me and ran to another guy who she liked more at the time.
I'm really hurting right now. I have some more important stuff going on my life (I'm preparing for athletic competition and my business needs attention) but my heartbreak over her has been A HUGE DISTRACTION.
I've managed to stop calling her (of course she tried to put me in the friend category). 2 days ago I wrote a letter that was outpouring of all my frustrations, resentments and hurts in detail. She knows a few but I never got a time to read all of them.
I know what needs to be done. I need to MOVE ON. Karma already bit her in the ass once (the guy she dated after our first breakup broke her heart) and likely to happen again. I'm frustrated with myself for feeling so attached to her. She's poison. I only wish she wasn't acting so sweet to me right now.
Anyway it felt good to write this letter. Relieving. I'm almost tempted to give it to her and never talk to her EVER again. Suggestions? I know you are going to tell me to burn it...but IDK.
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I think you should give it to her.
I don't know how most people are but I always want to know what I'm doing wrong. I've made mistakes in the past that I was either blind to or justified with flimsy excuses, but if it's pointed out to be openly, how can I hide from the truth? I don't like it when I lie to myself - when someone points it out for me, I can't help be confront the truth.
It might not make a difference right away or even at all, but if you are honest about how her actions made her feel, she can no longer hide from it by allowing time to warp her perception. It will be clear and precise forever. Even if she throws it away - once she has read it, she can't not know how she has made you feel ever again.
We don't always confront the worst part of ourselves on our own - sometimes it take prompting or the cold, cutting truth. You might be doing her a favor in the future by blowing away whatever her justifications were, she can't hide from it anymore.
I would do it - I don't let people get away with taking advantage of me without letting them know the result of their selfish behavior. But that's just me. A lot of times it might not have even mattered, but I know I walked away with a clear and free conscience.