So.. here's my story. Warning : if you are a broke frustrated guy or a judgy-eyed girl please back off. Anyway, for those who would like to give me a piece of advice : I met this guy almost 2 years ago, and we ve been living together in the same house for 6 months. The issue here is : he has changed like 4 jobs during this period, and he never has money on him... when we go out for dinner- i pay, when we go at the pool- i pay , at the mall-i always pay. This month i even paid rent and every other house utilities. I am getting so tired of being the man in this relationship.. in our city , without experience in a job he can win maximum 500 € per month.. which means not even 10% of our expenses.
Issue is- i grew attached to him and i don't know how could i leave him... i know this is not the life i want , but something always keeps me in this relationship. God i wish this never existed :(
Most Helpful Guy
had this female friend that was dating such a guy. I was always thinking "what the fuck she's wasting time with him".
Truth is he was also very possessive and jealous towards her going out at all with her friends.
The guy would bring all kinds of excuses for not having money, though reality is he is a loser. He cannot work it out and switches jobs twice or three times per year. This means he simply isn't capable of working.
Anyway, he comes up with excuses like: boss had something against me, a colleague pushed me under the train because I was doing better than him performance wise.
Not true, he is simply a loser.
The girl is asking me for money on a regular basis. I once told her "money is not free", she understood I want sex and was up for it.
Why bother and "prostitute" yourself, when you can simply change and get a guy that is decent.
I understand paying for a while, when there's an extraordinary situation, but having to deal with this all the time is not ok.1
Most Helpful Girl
if you love him, help him out. try to encourage him and help him out to get a job or whatever he needs to get back on his feet. HOWEVER, if you see no change in him or no motivation for him to find a job so that he can help out in your relationship and be a partnership, then i suggest leaving him. also just because you make more money in the relationship doesn't make you " the man". relationships are loving partnerships that help each other out. besides it's 2017!! there's definitely nothing wrong w the female being the bread winner!! good luck :)1