I got dumped about 5 weeks ago and the girl jumped right in another relationship with someone else.
I have been trying to act as tough as I can. I have told very few people about this. I have been emotionally distant and aloof more than usual. It's been impossible for me to smile.
When she dumped me I did bring up an emotional issue at one point during our conversation (we were face to face). I almost broke down but I stayed tough. She mentioned that "although I do a lot of tough guy things...but you really sensitive". The last thing I wanted was to appear more sensitive because I TRULY believe that is one the reasons she lost interest in me. Sensitive men are NOT attractive they are NOT masculine.
Well there have been a few times where I almost broke down by myself due to the crushing loneliness I'm feeling. I toughened up and kept going.
However I am wondering if I do cry...would it help me feel better?
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Cry, let it out, and you will heal what is broken inside of you.
Feeling pain from a broken heart is not being "sensitive" it's being human. What your ex-girlfriend wants is a robot so all the emotional attention will remain hers. She was being selfish - she didn't want the responsibility of hurting you by making you feel you don't have the right to be emotional. If you think it was your sensitivity that pushed her away, you're wrong. It's the fact that she feels entitled to be the only one who can have feelings that made her lose interest in you. Being a man does not mean you can't feel. As a matter of fact to me a real man is one who can show emotion, who has the strength to be true to himself and his own emotions.
It's a crock of sh*t when people assume that a man shouldn't show emotion - that's just a woman's way of remaining the focus of a relationship.
Just let it out, in private if you have to. Allowing yourself to cry is allowing yourself to acknowledge that you were hurt, that the pain was real and that you are mourning something that you lost. Nothing unmanly about that - it is so very human. You are a man who was hurt - that's all there is to it.