I've been married for 3.5 years and my marriage isn't going well.
Back in March, I found myself flirting innocently with a guy from work. This has now developed into a very intense connection and there's a lot of sexual tension between us. We're both married and have both tried to keep our distance and fight it but it's not helping!! In fact, i would say it's getting stronger.
I'm at the stage now where I actually want to cross that like. I've told my husband that I'm thinking of leaving (however I'm not leaving for this other man!!), and I now know that I'm seeing the other man again soon for a work event.
He occupies my thoughts day and night. When I do things with my husband, I wonder what it would be like to do it with the other man. I think of him when I have sex wth my husband (now a rare occurrence) and I've even shed a tear afterwards knowing that my affections lay elsewhere.
I just don't know what to do here.
Most Helpful Guy
Well there is no easy answer. more often then not the troubles start when there is a failure in communication. At some point you must ha e thought your husband was the best man in the world. I would try to remember some of those times and talk with your husband. about those memories. And also what you would like to see happen. in your marriage. ask him what he would like in the marriage. counseling would proubably be a good idea. And on one final note. remember something that Snoopy said. The grass is always greener on the other side of the dense. To you get there and find out it's artificial turf.
please don't cross the line. its so not worth it0
Most Helpful Girl
Is he in a relationship? I would tell you to fight your urges. You may only be feeling this way because you are unhappy and super vulnerable. You don't want to do anything that you will regret while you are unhappy. Although it may seem that being with this other man will make you happy , it won't. I'm sure you will only feel even more empty and possibly cheap.1