I've been married for 3.5 years and my marriage isn't going well.
Back in March, I found myself flirting innocently with a guy from work. This has now developed into a very intense connection and there's a lot of sexual tension between us. We're both married and have both tried to keep our distance and fight it but it's not helping!! In fact, i would say it's getting stronger.
I'm at the stage now where I actually want to cross that like. I've told my husband that I'm thinking of leaving (however I'm not leaving for this other man!!), and I now know that I'm seeing the other man again soon for a work event.
He occupies my thoughts day and night. When I do things with my husband, I wonder what it would be like to do it with the other man. I think of him when I have sex wth my husband (now a rare occurrence) and I've even shed a tear afterwards knowing that my affections lay elsewhere.
I just don't know what to do here.
Most Helpful Guy
I would suggest rekindling the marriage through communication. Perhaps what you're feeling is the same way your husband is feeling. You might just be in a stage of lust, which is normal. Talk to your husband, he's the man your married to, don't give up marriage because your lust and sex drive get the better of you. It's not supposed to be easy, work it out, talk.6
Most Helpful Girl
Is he in a relationship? I would tell you to fight your urges. You may only be feeling this way because you are unhappy and super vulnerable. You don't want to do anything that you will regret while you are unhappy. Although it may seem that being with this other man will make you happy , it won't. I'm sure you will only feel even more empty and possibly cheap.1