I've been married less than 4 years and although my husband is a good man, the start of our marriage has been incredibly tough.
Recently (in the last 4 months), I've noticed myself becoming increasingly interested in a male coworker and we have this incredible chemistry and connection between us, I've never felt anything like this before. He's also married.
We haven't acted on it but we both feel the same way and I'm wondering now if this is a sign that I need to think about leaving my marriage? I don't mean to be with this other man, I mean the fact that I've fallen so hard for someone surely means that I can't be happy in my marriage and maybe me and my husband are at the end of our journey.
Hoping to get input here from someone that's been through this before or can add insight into how I'm feeling.
Most Helpful Guy
Wow! You are talking about serious business here and need to think very carefully about what you are doing.
No one should be forced to stay in an unhappy marriage. Particularly if there are no children to think about. But at the same time, in my opinion, it would be a mistake to leave a marriage because you are attracted to someone else.
The question you should be asking yourself is would you leave if there was no one else out there. That's because there is no guarantee that the man you are attracted to may not be there for you.
Make a decision based on facts that you know are unlikely to change.1
Most Helpful Girl
The grass is greener where you water it.
Infationation and lust happens where you let it, and you've continued to put yourself in this situation. Giving all of the good, happy and light emotions into a man who isn't your husband. Leaving him with the mundane.
You should absolutely consider leaving your marriage if you're unable to stay away from temptation. Marriage means constant work with your partner and choosing to invest in them every time. Not sneaking around and spending so much time with another man you've had time to develop an emotional attachment. Your husband deserves better than this1